When I look around at the modern day segregation of the sexes, the encouragement by society for you to only value the other sex as a potential partner not a human being with an equal soul, I see nothing but a barrier. Society has trained us not to strive for a deeper connection with those around us but to keep friendships on the surface and promote this culture of division.
Friendship to me is definitely the most incredible part of life; the bonds you form with such amazing people that become irreversible. Connections are like strings on a guitar, when played together you hear such beautiful music but when one snaps under too much pressure the guitar can no longer create that melody.
The most beautiful moments in my life have been with the people I value as my family; like minded people with which I have such a profound connection, so much so that we know each other as family. There have been plenty of times where I have had to be strong for these people so, like the guitar, we can continue playing these extraordinary melodies; I’ve stood there about to break knowing that if I did things would fall apart. Even this want for harmony within our chords strengthened me into the person I am today.
I think we’re missing this in society: the strong unconditional bond and love for one-another that we are born with the capacity to give. There have been people who have watched my interactions with my ‘family’ and said how much they can feel the love that passes through us from one to another. So then when I look out on the world do I feel there are so many of us disconnected. I’ve been in social situations where people haven’t been interested in my friendship but in more primitive interactions which both angered and saddened me; making me ask why are we trained to think that as teenagers that’s how we interact: on a basic, soulless level. Only so when we grow into adults we remain segregated seeking no deeper connection then visiting the pub on a Friday gawping at the unattainable younger girls.
I am so thankful for fighting to integrate myself into a friendship group which I could see was full of real people, not the hollow plastic figures that we see in the media’s portrayal of teenage friendships. Once you find people which surround you with such positive protective energy you’ll understand what I mean when I say you grow together, teaching each other how true human interaction is supposed to unfold.
The happiness I feel when reunited with this family is insurmountable; especially after the distrust in humanity I suffered. So after months of fighting fear and sadness I was waiting to see the people I value most in life, the people who have lights so bright they encompass me, comforting me.
Things like this could never disappoint you, the warmth of those that you hold closest filling your heart and repairing all the damage you have done to yourself. Yet something does not sound right at the moment, our melody is playing faulty and we’ve lost one of our most valuable strings; until that string is restored we will play on with less beauty, waiting for that day to come where our song will play louder and more amazing then it ever was. For now we all wait to hear the song the way it should be played.
What will always bring me the most unbelievable feeling is that this family that I speak of have always felt my warmth and protection, and even call me there metaphorical mother. Yet what they do not know is they have been holding me up for such a long time and have helped me to save myself from that self defeating wolf who has been feeding me fear.
It’s my turn to say thank you. You are what I call true music.